Lets start with not having any confidence.
This is a good one for guys and girls because without it, you will not get a date.
Confidence can make either sex a lot more attractive, and I am not talking about cockiness.
Having an air about yourself that says "I know who I am, I have a lot to offer and I know what I am looking for" is plain and simple...
Have a negative attitude.
Everyone knows it takes two to tango, so if you are talking about how crazy your ex was...
We know you probably weren't an angel either 2.
Why would you have dated such a crazy person, doesn't look good for you either way...
so be honest and not just one sided.
If you are negative about the whole dating experience in general, it sours the conversation.
There is plenty of time to get into ugly details about past relationships or dates, but keep it light or you will never get a first or a second date! 3.
Don't have anything interesting to say...
Pay attention to what the other person is doing (such as if they are in a book store, what books are they picking up?) or if they have a nice scarf or outfit on..
a genuine compliment can break the ice and start a conversation.
If you are responding to an profile, READ the profile first and respond to the subjects that they have mentioned.
You may be surprised at the number of people that never really read the profiles and respond with inappropriate subjects.
If you don't have any interests that are interesting, don't expect someone to find YOU interesting.
If you cannot be bothered to spellcheck an email or are too lazy to use actual words and use only text language, you are SEVERLY limiting your pool of prospects to similarly lazy people.
Not care or realize the image you are showing to prospective dates...
Who we are, what we do and what we like is easily seen to everyone around us.
If we like fashion, we care about wearing trendy outfits.
If we eat healthy or unhealthy it shows.
We cannot tell intelligence or character from the outside, but we show what we value or DO NOT value.
To most people success (not only monetary) is attractive.
This shows that that person tried hard to succeed and that is commendable, and made that person who they are today.
Be careful what kind of image you are letting the world see, if it is different from the person that you truly are, then you should shine and let everyone see the real you.